Therapy Roulette

Reiki and Intuitive Healing w/ Amanda Day

March 05, 2021 Michele Baci / Amanda Day Season 1 Episode 124
Therapy Roulette
Reiki and Intuitive Healing w/ Amanda Day
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Michele wants you to check out Therapy Roulette on YouTube so you can see how awkward she is in person. Video interviews are published every Monday.

Today’s guest is Amanda Day, a Reiki Master and intuitive medium. Amanda shares her experience of raising two young children during the pandemic and how communication issues led her and her husband to seek out couples counseling. She opens up about her childhood trauma, PTSD, and the steps she’s taken to find inner peace and happiness. She discusses spiritual healing surrounding chakras, tarot, astrology, ditching toxic work environments, and how we have the capability to alter our life trajectories. The ladies discuss how society has a stigma against intuitive practices like psychic readings and Amanda tells us about Schumann resonances.


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Michele Baci  0:21  
Hey, Hey, Hey, welcome back to another episode of Therapy Roulette: consent to vent. My name is Michele Baci, and I am your host.

Michele Baci  0:33  
I want to just clear things up, I have been putting out this podcast either on Thursdays or Fridays every week. And my intention is to get it out on Thursdays. But I am very much human. And I've been working a rather busy full time job. And this podcast is really like a side passion project that I'm doing. So I tried to put it on Thursdays, but it does sometimes come out on Fridays bear with me, it does come out every week. And I'll let you know if anything changes or if I can ever commit to a day fully. But if it's not out Thursdays, it'll be up the next day. Don't worry about it. Also, I have a YouTube channel called Therapy Roulette. Where I've been putting out a lot of video episodes of the podcast, I usually don't put it in my little intro. It's just being the guest talking. And for now there are there are a bunch of video episodes up on YouTube, where it's like the full interview with the guests. So I recommend checking them out if you want to watch this one on YouTube. with Amanda day, that will be up Monday. So the audio version of Therapy Roulette comes out Thursday, sometimes Friday. And then the video version comes out on YouTube Monday. Because I am largely a one woman team with with a little bit of help from friends and family. So I am doing a lot of this work by myself and the YouTube version will be out Monday. Check it out, subscribe to the YouTube channel. Give me a like, give me a comment, smash that thumbs up, or whatever the kids are saying you know what you're supposed to do on YouTube, right? The YouTube videos are pretty fun, though. I think you'll enjoy them. It's cool to see people's body language and how awkward I get during some of these conversations. And while you're listening to the podcast here, if you're on Apple podcasts, or Spotify, or any of those big apps, please leave us a review. It just it takes like literally a couple seconds to hit five stars. Write something nice. You know, Michelle did this and I really like this about the podcast, she could do this better. Whatever you want to rate five stars is nice, but it's not essential. I will cry over it. But reviews help and they get us out to strangers. They get us out to the masses of Apple podcasts. I don't really know how Spotify works. But listen, if we can get attention on Apple podcasts, that'd be great because then Joe Rogan will start to notice me or whoever is currently reading the comedy charts on this episode i would i do want to give out like a brief trigger warning of sorts, we do dive into some childhood trauma, childhood abuse. So if you're easily triggered by things like that, you might want to skip the first like half of the episode or

Michele Baci  3:29  
prepare for it mentally. And we mostly talk about Amanda Day and her her career as a Reiki Master. So I wanted to define that for those who don't know, because I was not familiar with Reiki. Reiki translates as universal life energy it is a Japanese form of alternative medicine.

Michele Baci  3:49  
From the Oxford Dictionary, Reiki is defined as a healing technique based on the principle that the therapist can channel energy into the patient by means of touch to activate the natural healing processes of the patient's body and restore physical and emotional well being.

Michele Baci  4:09  
I personally love alternative medicine. I'm big into acupuncture and was doing a lot of that before COVID head so I think I would like to give Reiki a try as well. I would like to welcome to the podcast Reiki Master and intuitive medium Amanda Day! 

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Michele Baci  4:39  
Alright, welcome back to Therapy Roulette consented that I'm here with Amanda de she's a psychic medium and a Reiki healer and intuitive psychic medium. Amanda, how are you? I know we had some technical issues in the beginning. So are you feeling a little calmer now?

Amanda Day  4:55  
Yeah.

Amanda Day  4:58  
Ironically enough

Michele Baci  5:00  
I know I have to. I'm learning how to perfect the technical stuff. But for me, it's all new. So it's been a learning curve.

Michele Baci  5:12  
Where do you live? What are you in a different state than me?

Amanda Day  5:17  
Yeah, I'm, well, I'm not sure where you are. I'm in Virginia. So actually got your California. I've been watching. Yeah.

Amanda Day  5:27  
I knew what was going on when I came on. But

Amanda Day  5:31  
either I'm in Virginia, born and raised here. I lived in Idaho for like, a year actually gave birth to my first daughter there.

Amanda Day  5:42  
And then moved that literally after that having kids by yourself and not no family around us.

Michele Baci  5:49  
Yeah, that's what I've heard. So I know how was that like, a new city for you? Are you from Virginia?

Amanda Day  5:56  
Yeah, we, we had wanted to move out west and it's still a dream of ours. We have a family friends that live in Idaho. And they were just like, come on out here and stay with us for a little bit and try to get yourself on your to see and get ready out here to move. Want to go to Oregon? Oh, it was just like, you know, one step closer and then had a kid? It

Amanda Day  6:24  
wasn't those sort of things that we want to do, but we'll do it eventually. Okay, we'll be Yeah. Or I'll be 43 when both of them are out of the house. Oh.

Amanda Day  6:33  
Oh, I'm still young then. I'm ready for is that 

Michele Baci  6:37  
when they? Is that when they would turn 18?

Amanda Day  6:41  
Yeah, well, yeah. You know, they're nice. Finally, we're going to be out of my house, but there'll be 18 adult

Amanda Day  6:47  
be able to do what they want to do, I guess.

Michele Baci  6:50  
Yeah, that's funny. Like to look forward to that, like, call it the day they leave the house.

Amanda Day  6:57  
I know. It's

Amanda Day  6:58  
one of those things to look back on from my childhood. And I'm like,

Amanda Day  7:03  
I can definitely see how my parents are super stoked for all of us to go to college and leave.

Unknown Speaker  7:11  
A

Michele Baci  7:14  
different time. Um, so you have two kids now and are they really young?

Amanda Day  7:21  
Yeah, I actually had my second in the middle of the pandemic. Oh my god.

Amanda Day  7:29  
Yeah, he's like, full of social anxiety cuz you like never seen anyone. So when we go places he sees other babies. He's like,

Amanda Day  7:38  
I'm not the only baby in this world.

Amanda Day  7:42  
Because adorable is confusing to him. But yeah, he's almost nine months old.

Amanda Day  7:49  
My daughter Calliope is almost free.

Michele Baci  7:54  
Ah, yeah, that must be so strange for the baby. Like, his life his or her? Is it a boy or girl?

Michele Baci  8:02  
His name is Isaac. He's a boy. He's a boy. So he has had this very, like, once in a lifetime opportunity to bond with his family. 24 seven. And then I can imagine once the pandemic does, and he'll be like, what is happening? This is not what I signed up for.

Amanda Day  8:20  
Yeah, exactly. He is. I'm very hesitant still around with like my family when we get to get around them because he's so used to just us for our little family and get to be together. And I'm ready for it. I know he's not everyone's ready for it. Be able to open culture one day.

Michele Baci  8:43  
That's so like, adorable to have that little family. And I'm sure it's hard right now. But also, like you have that the once in a lifetime opportunity to be with them all the time. So I'm sure like there's grade one perks and a lot. A lot of like, this is too much time with the family.

Amanda Day  9:00  
Yeah, definitely.

Amanda Day  9:03  
I am neurodivergent my husband's neurodivergent. Like having kids, we can only assume that they're going to be neurodivergent. And my daughter is extremely hyperactive.

Amanda Day  9:15  
So being a neurodivergent parent, in like a pandemic, where you can't go anywhere has been incredibly

Amanda Day  9:25  
rewarding, I should say but also stressful, like, really stressful. But I have had

Amanda Day  9:33  
time with my kids. I probably wouldn't have had.

Amanda Day  9:36  
Yeah, I didn't have this.

Michele Baci  9:39  
But then it's like, you know how much rest Am I losing? With my hyperactive child and my baby around me at all times? Yeah. All of the sleep I have.

Michele Baci  9:52  
One day we dream of it again. Yeah, it'll come maybe whenever this ends

Unknown Speaker  10:00  
So

Michele Baci  10:03  
I'm Therapy Roulette. We love to talk about therapy, and you're in couples counseling with your husband. Tell us how that's been going. How long have you been doing it? What's like the biggest perk you're getting out of it?

Amanda Day  10:14  
Yeah, well, my husband, we've been together for four years.

Amanda Day  10:19  
And in the beginning of a relationship, we have a lot of communication issues, where

Amanda Day  10:26  
we're both I don't know if you're into astrology at all, or noticing about it, but we're both Aries are both really big hotheads. And when we fight, sometimes it will get really elevated her defense over the smallest things. So we, we fought out a therapist, to help open lines of communication, and allow us to establish better ways of talking to each other. When we're mad at each other. That hurtful things don't come out. And so we don't know we're gonna go gret after the fight. It's been extremely helpful. We've been doing it for about six months now. And it took a long time for me to get him to even be willing to do it as a

Amanda Day  11:15  
stereotypical not trying to sort of buckle but men generally just they just don't like therapy men, but I feel like society kind of pushed in matters and into you know, keep all your emotions tied tied up tight. So I had to coax them and

Amanda Day  11:29  
get them to do something, but it's been for him, I

Amanda Day  11:35  
think more eye opening than me. Seems like now I need to find my own personal therapist. Yeah, that's been a that's been a fun journey for him to try to find someone who works. Well.

Amanda Day  11:52  
Given the pandemic, literally all the therapists in my area, our Lambs Book.

Michele Baci  12:00  
Yeah. Which is amazing, but it's hard for people who are just couldn't get that foot in the door right away. Right, especially to find a good therapist to be like, I want someone who fits all my needs, and it's perfect for me. It's hard, hard to be picky right now. Yes, I am. I have set. I'm looking for my own personal I did years of therapy.

Amanda Day  12:26  
Like, right after I left, my parents fell for a year I turned 18. And realizing I had traumas I had to deal with and not realizing where a lot of my my issues are coming from. So I went to therapy there. I did. I even did therapy with my dad at one point.

Amanda Day  12:46  
We went to a Christian therapist, which I don't recommend

Amanda Day  12:50  
for people.

Amanda Day  12:53  
But I guess it depends how religious you are. Probably. Yes. Okay. So I grew up in I guess I have to get back. I grew up in an evangelical house, very Baptist is a was the center of everything. So

Amanda Day  13:09  
if you're familiar with the faith at all, you know, parents can do no wrong really in the eyes of the Bible and God so it's all it was pointed back on me. So that was in itself. Arma

Amanda Day  13:25  
going to therapy was traumatic for me. So I finally found someone I started with her March 8, which is super exciting. She's an art therapist. Oh, cool. And I'm super excited to try art therapy. haven't ever done it. She's the director of art, like the

Amanda Day  13:44  
director of the Virginia Art Therapy Association and Okay, also does Jungian psychology. Because

Amanda Day  13:54  
what I was super looking for really, really interested I do a watered down version of it at home.

Unknown Speaker  14:03  
But I'm not over. It's hard to find someone who practices it. Yeah, openly. You do a DIY, DIY Jungian therapy.

Amanda Day  14:15  
Yeah, well, it's like, um, in the spiritual world, a lot of people call it like Shadow Work, where you're addressing like your trauma, self and

Amanda Day  14:28  
delving into those moments that you have trauma so that way you can relive those moments to Ange, the future and your current trauma responses. But it's called a retrospective. retrospective psychological practice.

Unknown Speaker  14:51  
Cool, it's

Amanda Day  14:54  
very beneficial for me.

Amanda Day  14:58  
Take it slow though, because

Michele Baci  14:59  
It'd be very triggering. Yeah, for a lot of a lot of us that you're dealing with. But it's been incredibly beneficial for me. I imagine when you go into it knowing I'm I'm trying to heal trauma, I'm trying to dig something up that might have been buried for a while. You want to go slow, you want to you want to go like, step by step and really not overload yourself. Yeah, like, the baby is the step that is going to very, very quickly be too much. And it's very important to not run from those feelings. So are those responses when you're dealing with them and feel them, acknowledge them and then release the feelings back to the universe and think it's for transmuting?

Amanda Day  15:53  
This energy for you? Yeah.

Amanda Day  15:57  
My biggest

Amanda Day  15:59  
for myself.

Amanda Day  16:01  
So everything

Amanda Day  16:05  
from

Michele Baci  16:08  
if you're comfortable telling us what kind of trauma Are you trying to access? Like, is it something specific? Or is it like you don't even know because it's maybe repressed? No. I have

Amanda Day  16:20  
personally repressed memories.

Amanda Day  16:24  
I was molested when I was five. I have a lot of

Amanda Day  16:29  
childhood trauma that I'm working through. And then

Michele Baci  16:36  
you're five years old? How do you even remember? Like, you know, your memory is so kind of getting together?

Amanda Day  16:44  
It's, I know, I have very vague memories of Shinsei vague, I have very vivid, like, short memories of the timeframe of everything that was going down.

Amanda Day  16:59  
And

Amanda Day  17:01  
the fear and anxiety that I felt as a kid

Amanda Day  17:08  
person.

Michele Baci  17:09  
And as an adult. No, like, denied. And yeah, like your, your body probably spiked up with armor and was like, you know, I don't trust this person, like, get out. Wow, it's like I

Amanda Day  17:28  
person was, she wasn't even it was a female, which is even made it even more

Amanda Day  17:36  
difficult for me as a kid to talk to anyone. And it was it was my babysitter's teenage daughter, like 1718 year old girl. And then it was like, it still makes it even weirder to talk to anyone and as a little girl, being told, like, Hey, you can't say anything to anyone. No one's gonna believe you. Anyway, I learned how to lie as a five year old to protect myself. And as an as an adult, I have now realized that like, I quite literally used that moment was pivotal for the rest of my life. I had an issue and I'm not ashamed to say it now. I had a really big issue telling the truth. So my parents growing up in it in the fear of their reactions and what would happen to me. So blind became my crutch. They learned it from this moment. Oh, yeah. But that's not really

Amanda Day  18:38  
not really a skill you want to learn so well, especially at the age of five. So I would imagine it really like screws up a lot of stuff you're supposed to be behaviourally kind of learning. Yeah. And it's been it's been really good for me as an adult to be able to finally say things and have the conversations with my mom's ethically, because growing up line was an issue, like we said, so she can now look back on like moments and instances were like, okay, I can understand now, how this happened and why it happened. And so that's been really good for me.

Michele Baci  19:19  
That's good. You're coming to the point where you can like process all of that. I'm sure it's gonna be hard, but rewarding. Yeah. So I'm thinking it's like, sometimes I think I'm done with it. And then I sit down to meditate and you're like,

Amanda Day  19:38  
Okay.

Michele Baci  19:40  
Is this the first time you've really, right? You want to like, break it up? Be like bite sized pieces.

Michele Baci  19:47  
Is this the first time you've really tried to heal that trauma?

Amanda Day  19:52  
Oh, yeah, I

Amanda Day  19:55  
didn't. How well I tried to tell.

Amanda Day  19:59  
I'm fine.

Amanda Day  20:00  
And

Amanda Day  20:02  
an adult when I was a teenager, no one believes me. And I had a lying issue. So like, right, you don't have the best reputation for truth.

Amanda Day  20:14  
It was hard.

Amanda Day  20:18  
I, I knew what would happened. And I knew the impact it had on me, like physiologically. And there was always something that

Amanda Day  20:30  
I was aware of. And it was just never something I could

Amanda Day  20:35  
express outward. I think I've been healing from it, maybe for the past three years, of actively working on healing on it, like, I've had gotten past the acceptance portion of everything.

Amanda Day  20:50  
I

Amanda Day  20:52  
the grieving portion of it hit me when I was in high school, like really mad anger type thing.

Amanda Day  21:00  
But

Amanda Day  21:02  
I'm finally at the place where I can actually sit down and like,

Amanda Day  21:08  
old and meditate and hold my inner child and like myself in those moments. Yeah. Whereas

Amanda Day  21:17  
it used to be very, very triggering to even think about it. Like, you know, I know, there's a specific term for it, or triggers of like, PTSD moment, like a random thing. The person can see a fork and have like a panic attack. Yeah, that could have just like an association. Yeah, exactly. That's the I have the movie Green Mile for me. I just, anytime it's in the room, I have just

Amanda Day  21:51  
one of those trigger things. For the longest time, I couldn't figure it out, because it was a repressed memory and doing meditations one day, habit, I thought back to light and I'm like,

Amanda Day  22:06  
still never gonna watch the movie. But great.

Michele Baci  22:12  
Like, you don't, you don't need to ever watch the movie. But it's good. You recognize that maybe more triggers will pop up where you can, like, say you are triggered by forks, you know, you'll be like, why am I triggered by forks? Understanding that association hopefully gets you past it. Yeah.

Michele Baci  22:31  
Wow, that's awesome. You're doing all this work on yourself. I don't know how to approach that. Like, it sounds like it is a long process. And you do really need to educate yourself. So I'm glad you're, you know, in couples counseling, searching for a personal therapist, you're taking all the right steps.

Amanda Day  22:49  
Mm hmm. Thank you. It's been a journey. And it's not over. But

Amanda Day  22:55  
I got a I I do this I, I work through my, my traumas that my daughter doesn't have to tell us that our traumas are carried in our genes. And they go they passed on and

Amanda Day  23:12  
my parents will ask me, Hey, why are you in therapy? And I'm like, because you didn't go to therapy.

Amanda Day  23:19  
I just

Michele Baci  23:23  
you're healing. You're healing the family?

Amanda Day  23:27  
Yeah, yes. It's a lot of generational trauma. As I'm, as I'm an adult, like learning and at my own triggers, like, like body image, and weight and stuff like that. It was always

Amanda Day  23:46  
in my face as a kid. And now like, I'm an adult, when I'm outside of my parents house, and I can look at it, look at them, too, from an outside perspective. Like,

Amanda Day  23:59  
my body image issues come from you.

Amanda Day  24:04  
See all them and then I have been even my grandparents, I can't imagine.

Michele Baci  24:11  
Because you think about body image that's really a learned thing, like that's really in our face as a society and you are getting a lot of influence from the household. So

Michele Baci  24:24  
that makes sense. I'm glad you're recognizing it. So your kids don't have the same problems as you they have, like, you know, far less. Like it's just a drop of whatever it is. Yeah, well, we have to as parents, I know, it's hard to accept that.

Amanda Day  24:41  
We are cause trauma at some point in time, and our kids life and whether it be intentional or unintentional.

Amanda Day  24:52  
It's something that is bound to happen, but to try your best to

Amanda Day  24:59  
minimize

Michele Baci  25:03  
the amount of drama and I think no. I think a lot of it comes from like awareness and communication. Like if you're actively communicating, hopefully you can avoid a lot of big issues down the road. Yeah, that was

Amanda Day  25:17  
the big thing. Communicating being able to openly communicate with family members and

Michele Baci  25:24  
demote them to accept your feelings, not just squash. Yeah. And you said, you sought out couples counseling because of communication issues. What was like? What was a red flag for you where you were like, We should get help communicating? Like, what was the problem that kept happening?

Amanda Day  25:46  
It was,

Amanda Day  25:48  
it was just we don't have very many, there are very few and far between. But when they would happen, they would be like,

Amanda Day  25:58  
very explosive, and not like, aggressive, overly aggressive, just like he didn't know how to mediate the situation. properly.

Amanda Day  26:12  
Oh, have

Amanda Day  26:15  
we needed someone just to basically

Amanda Day  26:18  
sit there and let each of us explain how we're feeling in those moments to the other person. And as a therapist, quite liberally tell us back in life, how we can change and fix this, whereas it's simply for us, quite literally, simply is he walks away and says, I'm taking 15 minutes. Yeah, I will be back. I'm not leaving you in this situation.

Amanda Day  26:48  
When I, my issue was I didn't like him leaving and not giving like a timeframe, my

Amanda Day  26:57  
anxiety brain starts to, you know, get the wheels turning. And I'm like, is he ever coming back type thing. So the timeline has been a very, very

Amanda Day  27:09  
big demand, just fixing the explosiveness. And then if we had issues, I

Amanda Day  27:18  
think every couple does a couple and a couple has issues where someone might do more tours than the others. So it was

Amanda Day  27:27  
asking, finding my voice within my own relationship to ask and tell them what I need instead of

Amanda Day  27:37  
assuming he was going to read my mind and my subtle gap. I like to give like being

Michele Baci  27:46  
the directness I was lacking. That's so key for a woman trying to talk to a man like all the directness is key. No subtle hints, or

Amanda Day  27:58  
no, no subtle hints. I know, I fear, I like my soul mate. And where we were best friends before we ever got married. And we always in each other's sentences, pretty much brazel is mine. So I was like,

Amanda Day  28:13  
zooming like in my, the rest of our relationship, he could just

Amanda Day  28:17  
do what he was doing that. He was like, No, you need to tell me if you want me to do this.

Amanda Day  28:24  
I don't know any other way. Your size and glances at?

Amanda Day  28:32  
Not my cute, get the trash.

Michele Baci  28:35  
Right? Just like explicitly saying, Can you take out the trash works way better.

Michele Baci  28:43  
And that's so interesting, because I started couples counseling like a month ago with my boyfriend, because of like, I think we could really improve communication wise, and we act so much different with a therapist, like on the zoom in front of us. And we are so much better at talking things out because we're like, oh, no, we like no. This is like clearly a trigger to make us free. freak out. And this is like how you're supposed to talk.

Amanda Day  29:08  
Yeah, it took me It felt like that for me also for like, the first two to three months, because I would have to be like, Hey, remember, or I have to constantly pull back and he would do the same thing pull back like bits and pieces that we discussed in our therapy session and be like, Hey, remember that you said you could do this? I did this now. You're not doing it.

Amanda Day  29:32  
Next time we go to therapy about this. And it usually

Michele Baci  29:36  
takes time. Yeah, cuz you're learning it together. A change Yeah. Changes whenever and spent as much as we want them to be. To take time. Yeah, I'm glad it's working out though.

Amanda Day  29:50  
Yeah, it's truly worth it. I I tell all my friends that it's more so like,

Amanda Day  29:59  
man, I can't even

Amanda Day  30:00  
For now,

Amanda Day  30:03  
what is the word for

Michele Baci  30:06  
preventative?

Michele Baci  30:08  
preventative care. Therapy is an adult care when we go to couples therapy for permanent divorce, we don't have huge issues, like the little issues that we do have could become huge issues if we don't work on them now. Yeah. And, and maybe your own marriage, we want to fix those things. Of course, I mean, maybe I know, I'm finding in my own couples therapy, like, we have a lot of like, our own issues that keep coming up and like that's, you know, revealing itself in the relationship. And like, that's why you have to get your own therapist, really, both people in the couple have to otherwise it's totally uneven, like one person is working on themselves, one person is doing something totally different.

Amanda Day  30:50  
Yeah, exactly. It's

Amanda Day  30:54  
a big part of it, it was a lot about with a relationship in the beginning of it, where I would complain that, you know, I was like, I love you just the way you are. But you know, these are things that you can grow. And there's nothing wrong with growing as a person.

Amanda Day  31:13  
And that's at the time. All right. It was last year

Michele Baci  31:19  
is what I was looking at the way I am I don't want to grow, I don't want to change. And that took time for him to you know, accept that. Growth is good. And growth is key to living a fruitful life that you want to live. You also want to be grown like you want to be growing together. Like that's the whole point of dating, being together.

Amanda Day  31:42  
Exactly. And that was one of the things I would I'm not to be rude about. But I have to say, like, gentle on. I try to be gentle. Like, hey, if I'm growing and you're not, where are we going to be in like 10 years? And that was a big thing for him. The kids also.

Michele Baci  32:04  
Yeah. And I feel like

Michele Baci  32:07  
a stereotypical male perspective. Like, I don't need to grow. I'm perfect. And it's like, well, we all need we all need to grow

Amanda Day  32:17  
badly.

Michele Baci  32:20  
It's hard to like break down that wall.

Amanda Day  32:23  
Yeah, well,

Michele Baci  32:24  
like, brains aren't fully developed until they're 28 or something like that. Anyways. Yeah, I don't know the exact science but women do mature faster developmentally. So I feel like men, in my experience are like, at least three years behind a woman developmentally, like they mature a little bit slower in that way. Yeah. Yes. And I think definitely,

Amanda Day  32:51  
that is true. Science and for most cases are always you know, that like outliers that grew up with having to be the mature adult mature boy as a family. Hmm.

Michele Baci  33:06  
I think women are just,

Michele Baci  33:08  
you know, biologically, we're caregivers were meant to be mothers. So we have that in us. Like, no, you must take care of people right away.

Amanda Day  33:18  
Yes, that's um, that's kind of funny that you bring it up. I we have those conversations at home because it's like sometimes, fortnight and sometimes at nighttime, I can hear the baby crying, but he cannot hear the baby crying. And I think where it's just biological thing, because I don't know how you can't hear the baby crying.

Amanda Day  33:44  
Because yours was made before it.

Michele Baci  33:51  
Yeah, it's, it's true. And then like, he has to do something to equate what you're doing with the baby. So it's not out of balance.

Amanda Day  34:01  
Yeah, that's been, um, he does amazing. He's an amazing father. He

Amanda Day  34:08  
just quit a job. He was working a very, very busy full time employment. But he wasn't getting home until like seven or eight o'clock at night. And it was incredibly stressful for me and his work. home life balance was really awful. He

Amanda Day  34:24  
was toxic workplace for him. And now that he's home, he's

Amanda Day  34:31  
just like a whole different person. And I can't remember where we're going with it.

Michele Baci  34:40  
I was just saying if you're like, especially with a new board, you're doing a lot of the like parenting, so I hope he's helping around the house or doing something I'll be taking out the trash. Yeah, yes. Um, but with the pandemic, it was really hard to have the epic kid and him be doing the like 14

Michele Baci  35:00  
Our work days as a plumber, oh my god, it's huge work day, 14 hours.

Amanda Day  35:06  
Yeah, like he would literally clock in that like seven and get off at 789 10 o'clock. It was ridiculous. And

Amanda Day  35:17  
so now he's in the process of

Amanda Day  35:20  
getting a new job, which has been helping his work home life, his stress, my stress, and

Amanda Day  35:28  
we're hopeful.

Michele Baci  35:30  
Yeah, I mean, realizing something's toxic is the first step and working. working toward a better situation is hard. Yeah, it takes time. But it's worth it

Amanda Day  35:43  
took a lot of guts for him to stand up for himself because he's never been. And never, it's never been an easy thing for him. I was very proud of him. While I didn't stress me out.

Michele Baci  35:58  
I was very proud of them for not ghosting. Yeah, I guess he's learning that. He's learning what he needs. And he's, you know, taking steps to get there. Exactly. And I think therapist and a big part of that our therapist

Michele Baci  36:18  
stresses to him all the time that he asked to be vocal with his music just as much as I'm vocal with my needs. Right? And no one no one can read minds. You said you were a psychic medium, so maybe you can read minds. Tell us about that.

Amanda Day  36:35  
More so like reading minds, I have a channel.

Amanda Day  36:42  
I work with

Amanda Day  36:44  
people's their guides, mostly through Reiki work. I do Tarot, where I'll receive

Amanda Day  36:52  
messages that they're just trying to relate to the client and help them X, Y and Z. Sometimes it's literally just like, I hear someone's grandma tell me that they need to eat more bananas. And then it's for like, axiom stuff. We never realize what it is. And then they'll text me the next day. And they're like, Oh, yeah, my boy. I came back and I was low potassium.

Amanda Day  37:19  
It's always it's mostly cute, fun, cute, fun, but mostly

Amanda Day  37:25  
things like that. I

Amanda Day  37:29  
am trying to figure out a way

Michele Baci  37:33  
to describe it all. Have you ever seen it? Have you ever been to a psychic medium or an intuitive? I think I've been to one to one or two psychics. But they they seem very like touristy psychics, like on the boardwalk in Atlantic City, stuff like that. So I've never really sought it out personally.

Amanda Day  37:53  
Yeah, a lot of

Amanda Day  37:56  
it's very important to guard yourself and your energy and who you choose to work with or do messages for you. I

Amanda Day  38:05  
meant to bring my tarot deck. I definitely didn't. But

Michele Baci  38:10  
I was like, maybe I'll do a session or a newer reading. And I was like, I got all the way over to my parents house. I was like, yeah, no worries. I just want to hear I want to hear more about it.

Michele Baci  38:22  
Yeah, um, is this what you do? Do you do this for work? Or is it like a passion thing you kind of do on the side?

Amanda Day  38:31  
Oh, I I work full time for my own health insurance company.

Amanda Day  38:37  
This is I I have a se store that I sell candles that are like operabase uppers are energy centers. Have you heard of your chakras? Okay, so I have new candles that are energy based for the chocolate where I also sell my era services and Reiki really hard to do things over the pandemic because Reiki is where I would much rather be in the same room with someone so I can lay hands on them. It's

Amanda Day  39:12  
because it's all energy based, right? Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. The cool thing about Reiki though, is that like, distance and time doesn't matter. It's gonna flow where it needs to flow and go where it needs to go.

Michele Baci  39:27  
Be you're probably losing some of that virtually.

Amanda Day  39:31  
Yeah, well, it's, it's just harder to like, for me personally, like connect and stay focused. Whereas if I like had you sitting right here, it's

Amanda Day  39:46  
my ADHD mind doesn't wander as easily.

Amanda Day  39:50  
But Reiki Reiki is the

Amanda Day  39:54  
means universal life force energy. It was founded by Dr.

Amanda Day  40:00  
History back in like 20th century I believe. He did like I believe it was a 21 day

Amanda Day  40:09  
thing you know,

Amanda Day  40:11  
about Jesus.

Amanda Day  40:14  
And he does his meditations was all the Reiki symbols and was given the messages of Reiki. And it has traveled ever since. And has lasted they they say that it was it's always been around and read in my opinion Reiki has always been around. But it hasn't always been documented.

Amanda Day  40:34  
Like in the Bible, they talk about Jesus laying hands. It's a

Amanda Day  40:41  
Christian term for like Reiki healing, energy healing. It's

Amanda Day  40:47  
it's, I love doing inner Reiki work on myself.

Amanda Day  40:54  
It's very, it's a very good healing this

Amanda Day  40:59  
has helped me heal and release traumas as we were talking about, because as I'm with Reiki, I'm using my hands.

Amanda Day  41:10  
And I'm placing them on my energy centers, as I'm working through are funneling energy, Reiki energy here, it's opening up loosening up this dense energy and things that might have been trapped in blocks. And it's allowing them to come to life from the first has

Amanda Day  41:33  
to have been presented and in your face. For as long as I'm producing it. a press briefing allows it bust through those places that

Amanda Day  41:48  
sometimes medication can go, it's really, I don't ever want to recommend it for anyone to outside of like, on its own without actual doctors take your medicine. But it's there's been studies that show that Reiki with in addition to your medication and therapy is incredibly beneficial. Yeah, it's like a supplemental healing path.

Amanda Day  42:18  
There's like

Amanda Day  42:21  
300 hospitals across the America that have Reiki practitioners inside of their hospitals, because some of the immediate effects of Reiki can be pain relief, and

Amanda Day  42:36  
can also help with increasing appetite and inducing sleep if that's something that someone needs.

Amanda Day  42:44  
So it's just incredibly beneficial for

Amanda Day  42:48  
I have found that

Amanda Day  42:50  
older folk

Amanda Day  42:53  
love Reiki. I don't know. I think it's more so like

Amanda Day  43:00  
soothing energetically for them. That's where

Amanda Day  43:04  
I've,

Amanda Day  43:06  
what I've noticed

Amanda Day  43:10  
is

Michele Baci  43:11  
they're probably the older generations probably aren't very in tune with their chakras. So I imagine they're like seeking out ways to get in line with that.

Amanda Day  43:21  
Yeah, it's and oddly enough, I you see a lot of

Amanda Day  43:27  
older awakenings later in life, spiritual awakening, becoming conscious at a later at a later age and

Amanda Day  43:38  
right would be more years of work, versus starting the work younger. That makes sense.

Michele Baci  43:47  
And you're also into Tarot and astrology. Do you? Do you work with that with your clients also?

Amanda Day  43:54  
Yeah, I do Tarot. At the end of all my Reiki sessions, I do Oracle readings which are totally different than Tarot they're usually more uplifting all the time versus Tarot is kind of like blunt in your face. I don't care if you're feeling the

Amanda Day  44:12  
need to know right now.

Amanda Day  44:16  
in corporate both of them I whenever when they feel more call to but I prefer Oracle at the end. I do offer tarot readings. Outside of Reiki, where I know messages as well. And then

Amanda Day  44:40  
the Reiki and I have the zero.

Amanda Day  44:44  
No,

Michele Baci  44:46  
it's all good. My my boyfriend has ADHD and I feel like it kind of runs in his family. So I feel like I've experienced a lot like, like the weight I was. I don't know where I was talking.

Amanda Day  44:59  
I have

Amanda Day  45:00  
whole other third, like bullet point in my head. And then it's just

Amanda Day  45:08  
I'm

Michele Baci  45:11  
gonna talk about astrology baby.

Amanda Day  45:16  
There we go, thank you.

Amanda Day  45:18  
It's always been a passion of mine since I was a kid. Even like growing up in

Amanda Day  45:24  
a

Amanda Day  45:25  
Christian household, I've always been extremely fond histology and it I have in the past seven years, like reading and reading books and

Amanda Day  45:38  
deep diving into the like

Amanda Day  45:41  
arts of astrology that aren't

Amanda Day  45:45  
most used in society.

Amanda Day  45:48  
I love to do a spife reading, and career readings, and astrology. And I love predictive readings are pretty cool to do in astrology as well as

Amanda Day  46:02  
astrology.

Amanda Day  46:05  
You know, nothing's ever really, in stone. It says, This is what's likely to happen if you keep on the trajectory that you're going

Amanda Day  46:16  
to find something, your trajectory could change.

Amanda Day  46:22  
That's something I tell my clients, if they ever get a message, and they're like, I don't know, if I like, I don't like that. And I'm like, nothing's ever set in stone with the universe, you have free will able to do what you want to choose what you want to choose and do what you want to do. This is just where you're, you're headed right now. And if you don't like that, and you can change it. And that's the

Amanda Day  46:46  
point in getting the message most of the time.

Michele Baci  46:51  
He predicted my next question, which is like, do people get upset when you when you tell them their readings?

Michele Baci  46:58  
So that you can tell them like, Hey,

Michele Baci  47:01  
this is not permanent. This is just an interpretation. You know?

Amanda Day  47:06  
Yeah, my

Amanda Day  47:08  
daughter wants to do a lot of love readings, loved her readings. because of that reason. People are coming to you and they're like, hey, am I going to be with this person forever? And their spirit guides? They're like,

Michele Baci  47:21  
No, you need to love yourself first. Oh, my God. That's it. That's all I got. That shouldn't be allowed as a question. It's like too much pressure on the psychic.

Amanda Day  47:33  
I know.

Amanda Day  47:37  
But people also think that you're just like, you don't understand that you're not like versed in or it's not something you've done or you're not an intuitive. It's like, they think that you can just shuffle a deck and get a yes or no answer.

Amanda Day  47:55  
I wish it was like that. Sometimes. Sometimes it is like that, but it's very foreign to you.

Michele Baci  48:02  
There's way too many hypotheticals and they're like what is forever like, do you know what love is? Like even the fact you have to love You're like telling them love yourself first like that should be the number one

Amanda Day  48:15  
Yep, exactly.

Amanda Day  48:17  
it's um it's fun that I like to incorporate

Amanda Day  48:25  
arrow with astrology. And then on then in that thing around ideas in my head was doing

Amanda Day  48:35  
like astrology based tarot readings.

Amanda Day  48:40  
And I haven't offered it yet but I know a lot of people

Amanda Day  48:44  
who are interested in one are usually interested in

Amanda Day  48:49  
the birth.

Amanda Day  48:51  
But I really,

Amanda Day  48:54  
really would love to do more birth chart readings. It's not something that I have not like, professionally studied. And I know some people

Amanda Day  49:04  
professionally study as well. You

Amanda Day  49:09  
waste even professionally study astrology, but like

Amanda Day  49:15  
I think that's something that I'm still learning of self confidence and my own skills as an intuitive and

Amanda Day  49:24  
medium.

Amanda Day  49:28  
Being confident and in my abilities and sharing them and offering my services.

Amanda Day  49:35  
Yeah, therapist, imperative, or, I mean, my voice.

Michele Baci  49:41  
frayed. Yeah, really helps with that. I don't know. I'm not like super into any of these things. Like I've only heard of Reiki passing like I'm talking to you is probably my most experienced with Reiki healing. But I would imagine like if you build up your business and your clients and you're educating yourself, that's

Michele Baci  50:00  
That's probably what deems you a professional?

Amanda Day  50:03  
Yeah. Yeah, for sure.

Amanda Day  50:07  
just takes time building up that type of clientele.

Unknown Speaker  50:12  
Yeah.

Amanda Day  50:18  
Society, still, you know, kind of sticks their tongue in the face of the thought of intuitive and

Amanda Day  50:30  
it's hard to find that people who, like you try to explain something that aren't just like, okay, you're crazy girl.

Michele Baci  50:38  
Do you? Do you have like a community?

Michele Baci  50:42  
Like, do you have a community that kind of is around this, like the spirituality of it? And the, with the nature of it that you're really trying to do? Or do you find a lot of like antagonistic people who don't believe and don't put you down.

Amanda Day  50:58  
And then able to

Amanda Day  51:02  
have been able to distance myself from

Amanda Day  51:07  
people who may or may not weigh a lot, My Best friends, best friends are intuitive. And my family members are just not like, immediate family but cousins who are also I have like support system there and

Amanda Day  51:29  
people I can go to, to bounce things off of so that way. I'm not like, sitting here thinking.

Michele Baci  51:41  
But do you encounter people saying like, Oh, that's so woowoo? Or that's kind of like, Witch Doctor, do you ever get that?

Amanda Day  51:50  
I have no rule of thumb. Yeah. I

Amanda Day  51:56  
I try to find the best way to

Amanda Day  52:00  
explain things to people like I'm typically based because I in some spirituality, meat and science, like fully backed up consciousness. And

Amanda Day  52:15  
all I think it down for probably three hours to talk about that. But like,

Amanda Day  52:22  
just for example, like the Schumann resonance. Have you ever heard of it, but the earth

Amanda Day  52:29  
resonates at a frequency as do every planet and star and you know, any everything I have a frequency you have a frequency this year has a frequency. And the Schumann resonance

Amanda Day  52:44  
calculates it, it's just like a chart that records the frequencies that are coming in to earth. And there are bursts of like white frequencies, or it shows up as white which are a lighter, higher frequencies. And, and those times a lot of intuitives receive messages or downloads. Or it's a good time to send Reiki energy via distance, or do math breaky to

Amanda Day  53:22  
it for an event type thing. I have an app on my phone that I use that was actually made it specifically for Reiki practitioners developed for them to be able to

Amanda Day  53:35  
know when Earth is doing its thing and being able to utilize it to the fullest potential.

Amanda Day  53:45  
But what's cool about that is that it you can see the way that these frequencies impact you and up based like

Amanda Day  53:54  
waking up like okay, so many nights ago, we had a huge, massive burst between like one and 2am. Eastern Time, and my kids were wide awake the entire time. My kids are extremely sensitive to the energies. And ironically, a lot of my other friends on Twitter, were also having the same issues. And I was able to

Amanda Day  54:22  
put up explain Schumann resonance to a friend. And that reply, she was like, Oh, is this kooky stuff?

Amanda Day  54:31  
No, this is just

Michele Baci  54:35  
so what is it called Schumann? Something

Michele Baci  54:39  
called the Schumann resonance. Okay. And it happened in the middle of the night recently.

Amanda Day  54:46  
Yeah, I mean, they happen off and on throughout all the

Amanda Day  54:50  
FBI not every single day, but they happen more frequently than than not.

Amanda Day  54:58  
The bursts of higher energy and

Amanda Day  55:00  
There's other I mean, the graph also has different colors. So it's like a blue background, which is a background. Green, which is like nerve herbs, new, natural neutral state.

Amanda Day  55:15  
Easy, easy flow energy people tend to be, you know, you feel fine in the red

Amanda Day  55:23  
has more red in it red or orange, it's more of a denser energy, heavier energy, you're tend to feel more sluggish might have issues with depression or bouts of anxiety and those timeframes. Whereas the white is a lighter, more energetic,

Michele Baci  55:42  
optimizing type thing. Mm hmm. I feel like your friend might have called it spooky stuff just because she doesn't understand it. Like it's just not commonly known. So it's spooky. Yeah. Yeah, yeah. Definitely.

Amanda Day  55:59  
Nine times out of 10 people who don't know it, are afraid of it.

Amanda Day  56:06  
And it's because they don't know they don't they don't know any better. Or you know, and you grow up in a household where

Amanda Day  56:14  
anything that isn't one way is to be feared.

Unknown Speaker  56:19  
Or

Michele Baci  56:21  
loved to understand everything or expect what they think is going to come

Amanda Day  56:27  
back.

Michele Baci  56:29  
So on the podcast, we usually spin spin a roulette wheel and give you a random question. I'll give you a spin.

Michele Baci  56:38  
And I'll let you know where it lands.

Michele Baci  56:46  
It says perfect day describe your perfect day.

Amanda Day  56:51  
Perfect Day would be popping up and going to James River State Park and hiking with the kids and probably camping overnight in a tent.

Amanda Day  57:05  
Camping only fires, hot dogs, and smart.

Amanda Day  57:12  
Camping. That's my favorite.

Amanda Day  57:15  
That would be my happiest day. I can't wait until we can do it again.

Michele Baci  57:19  
I know that sounds nice. Does your little three year olds like to camp? Or have you taken her camping?

Amanda Day  57:26  
She hasn't. She hasn't ever been outdoor camping. Went to a cabin with

Amanda Day  57:33  
my parents. But she hasn't ever done the tent rough in a campaign. We are taking the kids out or putting them in May

Amanda Day  57:44  
or going to Seneca Falls and West Virginia

Amanda Day  57:49  
are gonna have

Amanda Day  57:52  
fun I'm a little nervous. But my son will be just turning one and she'll be three

Amanda Day  57:59  
we'll be good. We'll have some family friends with us.

Amanda Day  58:03  
We get to go we're going camping by ourselves or his 26th birthday coming up.

Michele Baci  58:11  
That'll be fun. Are you gonna go camping now? Yeah, I mean it's definitely a show socially distance activity. So that should be fun.

Michele Baci  58:22  
Um, my last question I want to hear about your Etsy store. What do you usually sell like what kind of products are you putting out down the line in the future?

Amanda Day  58:31  
Yeah, I have my chocolate.

Amanda Day  58:36  
He likes that every all the tea lights are color coordinated for the chakras. They have crystals and herbs in them that correspond with the chakra and along with the bayleaf at least

Amanda Day  58:53  
help

Amanda Day  58:55  
your intent or your what your and your intention is by lighting the candle

Amanda Day  59:01  
and then I also sell really pretty like decorative candles I like to make this pretty one who was like sparkles and crystals and I have a set that I'm about to be posting I have my shop on it's down right now on vacation and to restock everything that but I have a set of like every garden little and those are really cute they have like a little fairy garden on top and I make resin art as well. And I saw that on my shop like

Amanda Day  59:33  
I do a little room. Make room and

Amanda Day  59:37  
incense holders.

Michele Baci  59:39  
Nice long What are you are you making the like wax? Are you making the wax candle yourself?

Amanda Day  59:47  
Yeah I am I use soy wax and melted down in it for a minute.

Amanda Day  59:54  
I use glass bowls and has have a

Amanda Day  59:59  
regular weight

Amanda Day  1:00:00  
And old

Amanda Day  1:00:04  
I just double boil

Amanda Day  1:00:07  
the double boiler is fairly easy.

Unknown Speaker  1:00:11  
The hardest part about you say that but

Michele Baci  1:00:15  
it sounds very hard

Amanda Day  1:00:19  
um hardest part for me is then figuring out I

Amanda Day  1:00:24  
think

Amanda Day  1:00:29  
you have to have a certain temperature or a set amount of time and it changes for the kind of wax and the type of oil you're doing and I'm like

Unknown Speaker  1:00:39  
yeah

Michele Baci  1:00:42  
maybe down the line you'll get into that that's probably a more complicated like, formula you're figuring out Yeah, maybe 2022

Michele Baci  1:00:53  
Nice. Well Amanda, thanks so much for coming on. This has been a pleasure tell us where to find you online and and the name of the Etsy store and anything else you want to promote.

Amanda Day  1:01:04  
Okay, my

Amanda Day  1:01:06  
Twitter is the best place that's like you're trying to do book or reading or any kind of

Amanda Day  1:01:14  
ready for now it is. My name is at a MDYEA is

Amanda Day  1:01:25  
EAY sounds complicated? It is the first two letters of every one of my family's names day.

Amanda Day  1:01:34  
I'll have to send that to like written out.

Michele Baci  1:01:38  
I'll link it for everyone in the show the show notes. Thank you and my my Etsy shop is any day's shop.

Amanda Day  1:01:50  
Then as the middle when you're right into it.

Michele Baci  1:01:55  
Okay, cool. Well, thank you again. I hope I've healing continues for you.

Amanda Day  1:02:01  
Thank you. I enjoyed myself. Thank you for having me on the show, Michele. 

Michele Baci  1:02:04  
Of course it was a pleasure. 

Michele Baci  1:02:05  
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